"When you love yourself, you are able to nurture yourself, focus on your own emotional and spiritual growth, and take responsibility for yourself, thereby increasing your own sense of self-esteem. When one partner is asked for acts of initmacy or support by the other, each person can yes or no in a healthy way, without either parnter being diminished. The self-esteem of each individual blossoms when nurtured within a healthy relationship."Facing Love Addiction
Core Symptoms of Co-Dependence:
- Difficulty experiencing appropriate levels of self-esteem, that is to say, difficulty loving the self.
- Difficulty setting functional boundaries with other people, that is to say, difficulty protecting oneself.
- Difficulty owning one's own reality appropriately, that is to say, difficulty identifying who one is and knowing how to share that appropriately with others.
- Difficulty addressing interdependently one's adult needs and wants, that is to say, difficulty with self-care.
- Difficulty experiencing and expressing one's reality in moderation, that is to say, difficulty being appropriate for one's age and various circumstances.
Major behavioral symptoms of a Love Addict:
- Love Addicts assign a disproportionate amount of time, attention and "value above themselves" to the person to whom they are addicted, and this focus often has an obsessive quality about it.
- Love Addicts have unrealistic expectations for unconditional positive regard from the other person in the relationship.
- Love Addicts neglect to care for or value themselves while they're in relationship.