Sunday, April 08, 2007

12 Steps to Self-Love ~ Happy Easter!

"When you love yourself, you are able to nurture yourself, focus on your own emotional and spiritual growth, and take responsibility for yourself, thereby increasing your own sense of self-esteem. When one partner is asked for acts of initmacy or support by the other, each person can yes or no in a healthy way, without either parnter being diminished. The self-esteem of each individual blossoms when nurtured within a healthy relationship."
Facing Love Addiction
Pia Mellody

Core Symptoms of Co-Dependence:
  1. Difficulty experiencing appropriate levels of self-esteem, that is to say, difficulty loving the self.
  2. Difficulty setting functional boundaries with other people, that is to say, difficulty protecting oneself.
  3. Difficulty owning one's own reality appropriately, that is to say, difficulty identifying who one is and knowing how to share that appropriately with others.
  4. Difficulty addressing interdependently one's adult needs and wants, that is to say, difficulty with self-care.
  5. Difficulty experiencing and expressing one's reality in moderation, that is to say, difficulty being appropriate for one's age and various circumstances.
Major behavioral symptoms of a Love Addict:
  1. Love Addicts assign a disproportionate amount of time, attention and "value above themselves" to the person to whom they are addicted, and this focus often has an obsessive quality about it.
  2. Love Addicts have unrealistic expectations for unconditional positive regard from the other person in the relationship.
  3. Love Addicts neglect to care for or value themselves while they're in relationship.

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